September 5, 2007

Plan of action

I feel some relief from the stress of this past weekend after venting about it in the last post. I'm still hearing about some of the things Meema did when I wasn't around. The last straw was when Jacob announced "I don't have to take naps anymore because Meema said I'm too old to be taking naps". Last time I checked, I was Jacob's mom, and he does need a nap, if not to sleep but to have that quiet down time. And honestly, mommy needs him to keep taking a nap! My husband and I sat down and we have a plan with how to deal with his parents. In the past, we were so close to having an "intervention" with his mom, but at the last minute his brother and sister-in-law backed out of it. I seemed to be the only one who saw the importance of getting this woman help. There isn't a good way to do it. So, our plan is to wait until she brings up taking the kids for a weekend again, and I can guarantee that it will happen the next time they call. I plan to just tell her that until she goes into rehab and is sober that an overnight with the kids will not happen. It will not go well, even though I'm going to do my best to try not to come across as attacking her and I will be respectful. I've talked with obviously my husband, and his brother and his wife. My sister, who is in med school planning to be a psychiatrist, talked with one of the psychiatrists that works with addiction during that rotation, and we've gotten some helpful hints over the past few months on how to handle it. The problem is just actually doing it. But, for the sake of not only my kids, but for her own health, we've got to do something. One of my grandmothers died of alcoholism before I was born. My dad said that none of his siblings ever did anything, and that he really regrets that they didn't try. It may not work, but at least we can say we tried. Main problem will be my father-in-law. He's also probably addicted, but he'll be beligerent, rude and I doubt that he will quit drinking for his wife. Regardless, we've got to do what's best for our kids. I want them to be a part of their lives, but the drinking, and going behind our backs has got to stop. That's all I'll say about that for now, as I kinda feel like I'm airing the "dirty laundry" so to speak, but hey, thats' what an anonymous blog is good for, right?

1 comment:

Jen, Rich & Joey said...

Oh don't feel bad for venting, its better than you vent and let it all go thenfor you to bottle it up and stress yourself & baby out about it. So vent away if it makes you feel better. Or like my husband says, its Ok to fart under the blankets if it makes you feel better, just don't stuck your head under the blanket! LOL

We'll tomorrow's our BIG day! I just wanted to say thanks for the kind words of encouragement & advice (professionally & personally.)