June 25, 2008

Swingers

Back in high school and even college, I never would have guessed how some of my classmates would turn out. In the high school newspaper every spring, there would be a "Most likely to..." for the senior class. You can try to guess what people will turn out to be, but really, in H.S., you just never know. I can't remember what I was voted most likely to do, I think I was voted most likely to succeed, because I graduated #2 in my class. I was also the shy, quiet girl that never really dated, and actually had a friend tell me she didn't' think I'd ever get married. Yeah, she was a great friend. I wonder if she remembers telling me that, 3 kids and 6 years of marriage later. I would have never guess I'd be a labor nurse back then. I was a bit immature and sould have never believed I'd be comfortable doing pelvic exams, and all the things that go along with birth. I never would have guessed that a sorority sister would be on trial now for involuntary manslaughter of her daughter. I can now add a new surprise: I can now say a friend of mine is a swinger. We grilled out with a girl I went to H.S. with and her husband last night. She has always been a little on the wild side. She's had encounters with a girlfriend since she's been married and even had a 3-way with her husband and her former female boss. The first time she told me about making out with one of her girlfriends was the day after I came home from the hospital with Jacob. That was enough to stun me. But last night, she told me her and her husband have given each other permission to have relations with other people. Her choice was a 21 year old in their circle of friends. His choice was one of his wife's friends. She was actually out and her husband called and said "so and so is over, do I have permission?" To which she said, "I'll be home at 4a.m." And that was that. I guess if that works for them, then more power to them, but seriously, how can that be healthy for a relationship? I don't share well and kinda feel that you shouldn't do things like that when you're married. I guess I'm old fashioned. I told my husband that it was a good thing we weren't into swinging because I'd get the raw end of the deal because none of his friends strike my fancy.

2 comments:

Fertilized said...

Yes it's amazing what people do to "keep things interesting". I agree with you ..i would not be ale to do that to myself or myh usbands friends .. it just does not suit me well at ALL ..

Prisca said...

I saw some show the other night about swingers and can honestly say that the whole things seems completely unhealthy to me. Why be married if you want to screw everyone else? I just dont get it!