March 13, 2008
Whiny post ahead
I'm a bit frustrated right now. Since I went back to work, my husband has done nothing but complain about having to be here with the kids over night. He does have to be with them from 6pm on Saturday until he drops them off at school on Monday morning. He complains that he doesnt get a break, but neither do I. We are their parents and he seems to forget that being a parent is a lot of work. I did go to my parents a couple days ago and he stayed here so he could have a "free" day. I had hoped it would help, but it didn't. He seems to think that on the days that I'm sleeping and the kids are at daycare, that it's a "free" day for me. But I'"m sleeping and I get up to pump as long as Isaiah still gets up in the middle of the night to eat. And I sacrifce sleep in general because I work nights. I thought that I've been working night shift long enough that he understood that. He wants sympathy and a pat on the back for doing so much around the house, but on the weekends, he doesn't do anything housework wise like he seems to think that he does. He is a good dad and does do more than what some dads do, but seriously, I'm at the end of my rope. On my days off, I clean the bathrooms, do laundry, dust, sweep and mop the floors, do things with the kids to help them learn things and I have dinner ready when he gets home. And then he sits down with a book aftter he gets off of work and does nothing, and I get up with the baby all night and he sleeps all night. The only thing he has done is load the dishwasher. I haven't gone to work out lately because if I do, he complains that the baby cried the entire time (although he's sleeping when I get home usually) and he hasn't given the big one a bath and so I then have to bathe them, they don't get to bed until late and I dont get into the shower. And last night he said he wants me to switch to a regular dayshift position because it's too hard on him with me working nights and weekends. God forbid he has to drop them off at daycare. That's what the weeknd option was created for - working moms so they can work while dad watches the kids. Plus, I would take a huge paycut that we can't afford right now. I would go from making time and a half for 30 hours of work a week to straight pay for 32 hours a week. The kids would be in daycare 3 days a week, instead of 2 so there would be more money coming out of my check and less money there for the increased amount of deductions. Plus I'm not a morning person and I hated getting up early when I did work dayshift, I don't want to work with the dayshift staff because they are all pretty highstrung because it gets so busy. My plan is to get off of night shift weekend option after all three kids are in school, so I don't intend on doing it forever. Maybe we need to get out away from the kids for a night, I don't know. It's so funny that some people think that if they are having trouble in their marriage that they should have a baby.