tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post208069861852003754..comments2023-11-02T04:21:19.463-05:00Comments on 10 centimeters and beyond: On the RocksNurse Lochiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07137987823813922532noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-45729778680839572422008-11-16T20:09:00.000-06:002008-11-16T20:09:00.000-06:00I don't mean any offense, but maybe this is just p...I don't mean any offense, but maybe this is just proof that it is just really hard to make it work when both spouses work outside of the home, no matter what the shifts are. When our first was born, my husband and I decided that I would stay home, even though I had a great job, because it would be best for our children, and it would be best for our family. We had to stretch our budget and adjust, but there is NOTHING I would trade, for the peace that we have in our home now. It really does take someone being at home full-time to manage a peaceful household. I mean, you know how it is- when both of you work, there is no way you can get all the household things done, and spend time with your kids, and spend time with each other, and have time for yourself! NO WAY!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-60714551625761258592008-11-11T13:35:00.000-06:002008-11-11T13:35:00.000-06:00Im glad i got to read this. I also work as a night...Im glad i got to read this. I also work as a night shift L&D nurse and have been married for over a year. We have been together for 8 years. ALthough we don't have children I find my situtation very similar to yours. I take solace in being able to know I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing. It made me feel better.Julieannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03808862988128385787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-14574496982224673092008-11-03T17:25:00.000-06:002008-11-03T17:25:00.000-06:00Quite honestly, thinking about grad school hasn't ...Quite honestly, thinking about grad school hasn't really been considered lately because the kids are so young. I wouldn't be able to juggle everything right now with the amount of sleep I get. It was just the irony that a co-worker asked about grad school after a rough weekend.Nurse Lochiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137987823813922532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-22140852171523293282008-10-28T13:44:00.000-05:002008-10-28T13:44:00.000-05:00I have nothing particularly useful to say, but I r...I have nothing particularly useful to say, but I really admire how much work you manage to do and feel for you about the communication issues you're experiencing--being ignored, misunderstood, and blown off would be extremely frustrating for someone who was getting enough sleep, and since you're not ... ugh. Hope your week gets better from here.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07858810656969791963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-44797428136828191382008-10-28T10:28:00.000-05:002008-10-28T10:28:00.000-05:00Talking it out on your blog is ok, to a certain po...Talking it out on your blog is ok, to a certain point. You get things off your chest and vent, but it doesn't make things better. Have you and your husband tried couples counseling? Or, if he won't go, how about counseling just for you? That's not to say everything is all on your lap to fix it either! But I will tell you, when I went to counseling, it really helped ME work on MY issues. My ex husband was an abusive piece of crap, and going to counseling helped me build my self esteem. He never helped me when I was in nursing school, and I did it all - the household, the kids, school, etc. I also wasn't working during nursing school, so I could get away with doing it all at home too. But now? Working...grad school...home life..parenting -- I need my partner's full support. And thankfully, I get it, most of the time. I think if you try to take on school now, with the turmoil that your marriage is going through right now, something would break. Either your attempts at grad school, or your marriage.AtYourCervixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238926588944507794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-26754355423295666702008-10-28T10:00:00.000-05:002008-10-28T10:00:00.000-05:00I guess talking about it on your blog depends on y...I guess talking about it on your blog depends on your perspective. <BR/><BR/>I know that I would be absolutely devastated and humiliated if my husband were to air our marriage issues on his blog. I would feel betrayed. <BR/><BR/>Hopefully the two of you can find someone to talk out your issues with.Mrs. Spithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386820063407910064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-38828619260122083552008-10-28T09:42:00.000-05:002008-10-28T09:42:00.000-05:00I wish i had some grand idea that would help all c...I wish i had some grand idea that would help all couples in this situation. It seems to be a common place to be stuck inAwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-88325675778093324802008-10-28T08:53:00.000-05:002008-10-28T08:53:00.000-05:00It's ok to talk about stuff like this on your blog...It's ok to talk about stuff like this on your blog. That's what it's here for :) <BR/><BR/>It's so hard finding time to do everything, especially with little ones and working on top of that. I work 8 hours a day and can barely find time. I can't imagine working the hours you do, and doing everything on top of that. You rock being able to do what you do!<BR/><BR/>But on a serious note, maybe you guys just need to sit down and talk about stuff, because I've found when things get a little tense in our household, we tend to keep it bottled up until one of us just lets loose. We've been better lately with talking it out, and it's seeming to help. I think men seem to get resentful about alot of stuff, and their way of dealing with it is not talking. We've both been resentful at times, and we were resentful at one another and it just kept building. Not good. <BR/><BR/>Seriously though, talk it out. It might make things a little better. <BR/><BR/>(And don't give up on your dream of going back to school. You'll be glad you made the choice to go back.)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02788593857998937296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8568619474449091271.post-8575760869183605822008-10-28T08:50:00.000-05:002008-10-28T08:50:00.000-05:00Hey. FIrst time poster long time reader. I would...Hey. FIrst time poster long time reader. I would like to give you a challenge if you are interested. It is actually a two part challenge. It works and I believe in it and my wife and I are halfway into it. If you are interested please go to my blog and email me. My blog is at heritageofmcdonough.com/blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com